Answering on a scale of 1 – 10.
10 = Completely Agree
1 = Do Not Agree At All
Here we go…
#1) You feel “less than” for staying with them
#2) Every time something special (like a birthday or a promotion) comes up she sabotages it.
#3) You’re sure they’re cheating but don’t know 100%. When confronted she provides plausible deniability.
#4) I am careful about what I say to (and in front of) her to avoid upsetting her.
#5) The sex is amazing. She swears you’re the best and you feel the need to ask if you are.
#6) You’ve caught her in obvious lies.
#7) You’re not as close to your family as you once were.
#8) You get the sense that being close with people (other than them) upsets her.
#9) You feel grateful they pay attention to you and ignore previous damage.
#10) Frequently, you feel they are lying, but choose to give them the benefit of the doubt.
#11) They had a “trauma” in the past
#12) They triangulate people against you
#13) You get the sense her family does NOT like you
#14) Her family is self-centered
#15) When you are low she tries to take you lower. (ex. leaving you after losing your job)
#16) She is most engaged when you are upset.
#17) You feel your suffering amuses her or further invests her in this farce of a relationship